(This article was originally written and published for BollywoodShaadis.com)
When your relationship is on the rocks, a lot of people will put an arm around your shoulder and tell you what to do. This emotional support from near and dear ones is required, may be along with professional marriage counselling sessions; but at the end of the day, it is on your partner and you to work things out together.
Here are 15 simple tips on how to save and improve your relationship that are as easy as reading them.
#1. Give each other pet names
Pet names are mushy, but they are cute at the same time. If you have special names for each other, then use them from time to time.
#2. Display your togetherness
From things they brought back from their vacation together to their wedding photographs, happier couples are known for showing-off such items of togetherness at their homes. This is a research-backed marriage advice that shows how proud couples are of their relationship. And, this is a ‘happy marriage’ secret that you too must steal.
#3. Compliment them
Small little compliments, thrown in every now and then, can really ignite the spark in a fading relationship. “You look lovely today” can work wonders when your wife is getting ready for a party. Or, “That shirt is looking good on you” can really make your man’s day as he gets ready for work.
#4. Smile more and more often
Do you know that a study has revealed that people who smile more have longer and happier marriages? People who smile more are said to be more joyful and positive; and that is why, they have healthier and happier relationships. So, a smile can brighten up your partner’s day and your relationship instantly; say cheese!
#5. Don’t glorify yourself and don’t correct them
Ogden Nash has said-
“To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you’re wrong, admit it;
Whenever you’re right, shut up.”
So, let go of the urge to gloat over things when you are right. Along with this, if your partner is wrong about something that is trivial or inconsequential, then too resist the urge to correct them, especially when you are in a group.
#6. Go for ‘thank you’ and ‘sorry’
Saying ‘thank you’ to your partner whenever they do something nice and special for you or those around, is a great way to make them feel loved. Also, a simple ‘sorry’ is not easy to say, but its magic just can never go amiss.
#7. Let it go
It takes a lot out of someone to apologise. So, if your partner is saying sorry then you should try to let things go and patch up. Also, when you are quarrelling always remember that the person opposite you actually cares about you and loves you.
#8. Date your spouse
Just because you are married doesn’t mean going out on a date is juvenile. Plan an impromptu outing to your partner’s favourite restaurant, and pick up a small gift or flowers for them. Also, sprinkle some excitement into your dates. Instead of going for tried and tested things, try something new and exciting. Say, going for clubbing instead of romantic dinner, or trying out a new place or a different cuisine, etc.
#9. Get friendly with their friends
Call his/her best friends over for dinner now and then. This way your partner can have fun with his or her buddies, and you too can learn a lot many things about them. This way your partner will also get to know how much you respect their individual space.
#10. Remember and recreate romantic getaways
Always remind your partner and yourself about the great times you had on your honeymoon and other romantic getaways. All those happy memories will do wonders for your relationship. What’s more? If it has been a long time since you went out for a vacation, then plan one!
#11. Keep talking about future
At times, talk about the future of your relationship. Talk about where and how you see your life together five years down the line. This kind of interest can work wonders for your marriage.
#12. Don’t let go of communication
If you have a problem with something your partner says or does, make sure you bring it up instead of letting it build up inside you. Also, instead of running towards your parents’ arms to talk about your issues, learn to talk to each other about them, as honestly as possible.
#13. Sometimes, go to bed angry
While it is a good idea to resolve your issues before they get out of hand, it doesn’t mean that you have to stress yourself out for this. There are also times when constant discussions and the acts of solution finding erode the situation further. So, take a break and talk over things next day when your mind is fresh.
#14. Never let go of intimacy
Always try to create intimate situations where you can just stare into each other’s eyes, exchange a sweet kiss, cuddle up, and forget about the world around you. This is a great way to keep the fire of passion burning bright in your relationship.
#15. Say “I Love You!”
“I love you” might be three simple and small words strung together, but they are worth their weight in gold. Make sure you tell your partner how much you actually love him/her.
So, if your relationship is stuck in a rut or you feel that you and your partner are drifting apart, add these simple and small relationship mantras in your life. These simple tips would help to add breath of fresh air in to your beautiful marriage.
(This article was originally written and published for BollywoodShaadis.com)
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